November 26, 2012
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Divorced families can still enjoy happy holidays with a little planning
Communication, courtesy and putting your kids first go a long way
(San Diego) - The holidays aren’t always warm and fuzzy like a Hallmark card for divorced and separated parents. Phones start ringing off the hook in family law offices all over the country including Fleischer & Associates as families start squabbling over custody and visitation schedules, winter vacations and even gift-giving. Serious fears about non-custodial parent abductions and unsupervised visits can arise.
Lead counsel Myra Chack Fleischer says like most attorneys, she would rather enjoy the holidays with her own family than rush into court to file emergency legal documents for stressed out clients during the season. “Due to the recent court cutbacks, emergency filings are an even greater strain on everyone,” said Fleischer. “This is the time to think ahead, anticipate and solve problems so you can enjoy your holiday season with minimum stress for you and your children.
“If at all possible, communicate, and communicate some more with your former spouse. Do so through attorneys if you must. Here’s the payoff: you’ll not only avoid stress but also any added financial expense from legal bills,” added Fleischer.
Fleischer offers these tips for divorced parents:
- Get out your most recent court order. Is there a holiday schedule included in it? It may be a while since you looked it over. Get familiar with specific dates and times your children are with you, and when they are supposed to be with the other parent.
- Be proactive and send a friendly confirmation of the holiday schedule to the other parent so that expectations are clear. See if you can solve any disagreements now.
- Attorneys are usually happy to review your holiday schedules for minimum or no cost. Whatever the cost, it will save time, money, and stress in the long run.
- Draw up a holiday schedule for your kids and post it. Make sure everyone is familiar with it so transitions are smooth. The only surprises should come from Santa.
- Be flexible. If out of town relatives are making a special visit, don’t punish your children by prohibiting visitation even if it’s your regular time. It might be the only time of the year seeing them is possible. Encouraging ongoing relationships with all of your children’s family members is always in their best interest.
- If your kids have to travel to visit a parent who lives far away, both parents should have a copy of the specific holiday schedule, contact numbers and addresses so the non-visiting parent can stay in touch during the visitation period. Get everything in writing so there are no misunderstandings.
- If you fear for a child’s safety or have suspicions about child abduction, you may want to discuss your concerns with a family law attorney and decide whether you need to ask a court for a modification of visitation.
- As a general rule, you cannot take minor children out of your state without the other parent’s express written consent. The other parent should be informed right away if you plan to leave town. Don’t forget and then expect him or her to go along the day before the trip.
- Stay positive and assure your kids they will enjoy happy holidays with both of you. Don’t make them take sides and don’t make them feel guilty for enjoying time with the other parent’s side of the family.
- If you feel sadness about family activities that remind you of a time your family was together, forget about struggling to keep everything the same. Accept change as positive and introduce some new, fun activities into your holiday.
A minimum effort on your part could save you and your family from an emotional or financial disaster. This is supposed to be a special time of the year for everyone, most of all your children.
About Fleischer & Associates, Attorneys At Law
Lead Counsel and Family Law Expert Myra Chack Fleischer has been practicing law since 1997 and in 2001 founded Fleischer & Associates, Attorneys At Law. Today, the firm focuses on divorce and other family law areas such as Divorce, Custody, Support, Division, and Agreements. Our expert attorneys have a unique mix of legal, parenting, and financial expertise for clients. In addition, the firm collaborates with therapists, investigators, and other key resources to resolve your family law situation. Fleischer has an uncommon combination of legal, accounting, parenting, and psychological skills and expertise that sets her apart as “The Family Law Expert of Choice.” Myra infuses this expertise into her firm, adapting her abilities and approach to each client’s situation.
Fleischer and Associates is online at www.fleischerlawoffice.com; on Facebook at www.facebook.com/fleischerlawoffice, and Twitter at @LawyerMyra